What is a soulmate? My answer may surprise you...

You're wondering: What is true love? What is a soulmate? Everybody wants one, but there doesn't seem to be a consensus on what a soulmate is.

Richard Bach's definition is a beautiful one, I think.

“Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person.”

– Richard Bach

First off, I believe in reincarnation. So a soulmate is another person that we've already known in a past life. That's what makes it a spiritual relationship. Finding and living with your soulmate is much more than filling our loneliness. It can actually turbo-charge your greatest potential. So in my view, a soulmate is a growth relationship.

Below, I expand on the conventional definitions and then add some of my own more mysterious understanding of soulmates. At the bottom of this article, you'll find more helpful articles that I hope will round out your own soulmate questions.

What is a soulmate?

“I'm afraid we don't want the same things.”

– Sex in the City

The dictionaries answer 'what is a soulmate' by describing a person with whom we have a feeling of deep comfort, affinity and compatibility.

Two out of three definitions mention similar attitudes and beliefs. In other words, a soulmate relationship is a peaceful spiritual relationship. No wonder having one is so desirable!

However, in my view, there is much more to a soulmate relationship.

For example... do you believe that every soulmate is a romantic relationship? I don't. I believe that friends can soulmates and so can family members, teachers, and even pets. I also believe that every relationship has the potential to be soulmates if both parties are willing to dig deep.

The good news? All of us already have soulmates in our lives! Which is very cool.

The bad news? The most intense, thrilling, excruciatingly painful emotional connections we've experienced romantically... may not be soulmates at all. At least not yet. Though they are a type of spiritual relationship. I call these karmic relationships.

“You've set it up for your next life (choke)

If you have an intense connection with someone that just is not working out, this can be very hard to hear.

Maybe it's one of those 'right people, wrong time' kind of situations. But an intense heartbreak experience also has the potential to wake you up and consider deeper areas of life, such as karma. Meaning of karma

Why are you here?

I mean the Big Question, not here reading this site.

If you're interested in having a soulmate union, the best advice is learn how to understand and love yourself first. Whatever your goals, whatever your beliefs, this is always the first step.

Take some time to explore the articles below and throughout this site. I've crafted each to offer up a slightly different serving of soul (and soulmate) food that you can use in your life today.

Do you have a better sense of what a soulmate is?

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Take me to:

The concept of soulmates – Read why I believe anyone can be soulmates - if certain conditions are met.

Soulmate theory – Here I debunk Jerry McGuire's 'You Complete Me' speech (and explain why I believe this perspective is dangerous).

Do soulmates exist? – Short answer: yes. And here I explore how your every day choices either magnetize soulmates, or repel them.

Spiritual soulmate – You may yearn for a spiritual soulmate relationship. But are you really ready for one? Test yourself and see...

Meaning of soulmate – Want to know what soulmates mean? What if they're an invitation to get to know your soul...

Definition of true love – To get to the core meaning of true love, we need to step through a doorway of mystery.

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