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A daughter's tale of truth, love and letting go

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An addictive spin on awakening, soulmates and past lives

The concept of soulmates using the empowering perspective of The Soulmate Continuum

“Play fair. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Say you're sorry when you hurt someone.” 
— Robert Fulghum

The concept of soulmates is tricky. At one end, it's romantic woo-woo. At the other end (where I live) it's naturally re-connecting with souls we've known and loved in past lives.

But not every relationship is perfectly easy and loving. So! After a great deal of pondering, I've come to the conclusion that every relationship we have resides somewhere on what I call The Soulmate Continuum.

There are no exceptions to this rule. And I'm talking about all the soul connections we have – not just the romantic ones.

What is The Soulmate Continuum?

I invite you to expand the concept of soulmates. Picture a sliding scale with Conflict or Obligation (karma) at one end – and Love, Acceptance Freedom at the other.

Now imagine that every relationship choice we make in connection with another, nudges the relationship either closer to or further away from Love.

As we do our best to move every soul connection we have further up the Soulmate Continuum (even just a nudge), we expand our own capacity to attract more Love into our life – in every form.

Including of course – your soulmate partner who is ready, willing and chooses to walk beside you as you both grow together.

Think back – how do your past relationships measure up? Did you leave your relationships higher on The Soulmate Continuum – or lower?

The first question of life: “How much did you love?”

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
— Tom Robbins

I was at a seminar once, where the instructor was funny, smart and wise. He said that when we're on the other side and we're asked about this life, the first question that we'll be asked is: How much did you love?

That is — how much love did you put into the world? Rather than how much love did you get out.

Love is expressed (or not expressed) in every thought, emotion and action. Some believe that there are only two emotions: Love or Fear. The concept of soulmates resides on the side of love. However, being human, it may take a bit of work to get there.

I'm not talking about the grand cand gestures of Valentines. I'm thinking of the thousands, even millions of micro choices we make over the course of the lifetime of a relationship. To connect or disconnect. To be kind or cruel. To open or defend.

Go there now. How many of your past relationships choices were from Love? If the relationship ended – how did you do – on balance?

Choosing to view the concept of soulmates as a Soulmate Continuum would mean that even leaving a relationship may be the most Loving Choice. Perhaps gifting the opportunity for someone to engage the transformational quality of their own pain.

Real Love doesn't require that we take on the role of doormat. For the first Love on which we are tested on, also encompasses the love we have for ourselves.

Do you have to be physically with someone to heal a past relationship? You can't control what another person feels or do or decide – but you can choose how you how you hold them in your heart.

Why consider The Soulmate Continuum perspective?

“Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away. “
— Elbert Hubbard

Expand the concept of soulmates that you hold in your mind and heart. Do your best in every relationship to make Loving choices. Move your relationships up the Soulmate Continuum.

Live this perspective and you will:

  • Expand the Love in your heart
  • Attract more Love into your Life
  • Magnetize people, situations and events to you – for the purpose of experiencing more Love.

See how this works? And - you completely control this (start today).

Taking the first step

“If you would take, you must first give, this is the beginning of intelligence.”
– Lao Tzu

We're at a point of human evolution where we're called to claim and heal our unconscious stuff – we all have it, or we wouldn't be here. This requirement isn't going away.

If you're in a relationship, you can begin today by making small, conscious, Loving choices, as much as you're able. If you aren't in a spiritual soulmate relationship, you may choose to reflect on your past... and cast intentions to manifest your soulmate in the future.

A multi-faceted approach

Your efforts will be seen and felt in every area of your life. Take a first step. Go as far as you can see. Then you'll be able to see further.

“Ideas are the beginning points of all fortunes.”
– Napoleon Hill

Many years ago, I made the decision to change the concept of soulmates as I understood it. I now embrace all of my present and past relationships, with as much Love as I can muster. It wasn't always easy. Yet at each juncture I knew that this perspective is the only one that would open me to Love.

That's what My novel Moondance is about. By writing, I transform myself. And perhaps I expand the concept of soulmates for others along the way.

Are you willing to entertain the notion, that by doing whatever you can to move every relationship you have had up The Soulmate Continuum, that you will also bring more Love into your life, in every form?

Are you willing to do this, and let go of the timeframe, joyfully enjoying your life until then? That, and never, ever give up? Good.

As for how you do this, there's no one right way. Everyone's different and I encourage a multi-faceted approach. Expand the concept of soulmates by researching the topic.

Seek out those eclectic, multi-faceted ideas, healing modalities and people that assist you in living joyfully “as if” ... and which fan your burning desires.

Then trust. Believe. Get ready to receive.

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What is a soulmate? – Heart-opening insights and soulmate defined in an empowering, grounded way (and more articles to explore).

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