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Meeting your soulmate: A momentous event? Or a whisper you might miss...

Meeting your soulmate sounds like a momentous event, right? Like those Hollywood flicks where the couple finally kisses for the first time, and everyone claps? Gag!!

I'm using a bit of a light-hearted approach to introduce a topic that's dear to my heart. You see, I sincerely believe in reincarnation. That we've known some souls before. That perhaps we've been lovers, friends, teacher/student, siblings and maybe even parent or child. That we've been rich and poor, and both sexes, and perhaps lived in different parts of the world.

I also believe that we reincarnate in soul groups... so meeting soulmates and (more challenging) karmic relationship along the way is just part of living.

What real soulmate meetings look like

Imagining how it will be when we meet a soulmate partner is a good exercise for our imagination as we wait, but don't get too caught up with it. Because there's a very good chance that you'll be wrong.

If you don't mind being wrong or at least being surprised later on when you do meet the right person, then read on! I hope that this short article eases your heart somehow.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi

A story of soulmates reunited

Have you read the true story, Only Love is Real – A Story of Soulmates Reunited? This is a great book to read if you want to stay inspired around meeting your soulmate.

It's by psychiatrist Brian Weiss who's been on Oprah and also wrote Many Lives, Many Masters. He was doing past life regression on two of his single patients, Elizabeth and Pedro a few years back. He noticed that Elizabeth and Pedro's past life recalls were astonishingly similar

Knowing their similarities and that each deeply desired a relationship, Dr. Weiss slowly became convinced that they were soulmates. He wondered how they'd meet, and pondered whether he should be introducing them. He discreetly arranged a meeting by booking their appointments back to back.

A first meeting in Dr. Weiss' lobby fell flat. Instead, it was a serendipitious second meeting that sealed their connection...

And a beautiful movie to watch...

Movies can open our hearts and imagination around meeting your soulmate - do not underestimate their power.

Check out the movie Fugitive Pieces, a beautiful, sensuous tale about the redeeming power of love. Whew. I cried all the way through it! The main character, Jakob (Stephen Dillane), loses his family as a child in world war two. Damaged by the experience, he's lovingly raised by a Greek archeologist, and meets his soulmate (Ayelet Zurer) late in life.

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Now some real-life examples!

By the way, these are people I've met (or I know well) - and each are now married, many with families.

What they said early on after they first met one another:

“He's too young.”
“He's too straight. I told him that this will never go anywhere. I'm seeing other people...”
“He's too old.”
“I'm not sure I want to kiss him, let alone make love.”
“He is completely not my type.”
“He doesn't work out, it'll never work.”

On the other hand, as they continued to see each other, these same people said:

“He's never disappointed me.”
“He's as eclectic as I am...”
“He makes me laugh.”
“He took care of me when I was sick.”
“He always wants to celebrate.”
“He initiates the emotional conversations.”
“I can be myself with him.”

So meeting your soulmate match may never be like a Hollywood lightning flash (with people cheering when you kiss!). More likely, it will be be something that sneaks up on you, like a whisper. And something you'll need to stay open to, as you reveal the deeper layers that'll build your bond.

What about love at first sight?

Is meeting your soulmate something you'll recognize in the moment? Is it an instant bond? I don't think so. Intense ‘instant chemistry’ could be soulmate recognition... or it could be an unconscious response to something our soul wants us to make conscious. In other words, a karmic relationship.

The readings by clairvoyant Edgar Cayce are clear that rarely do marriage partners come together with a ‘clean slate’. The soulmates that most people yearn for are two souls who have worked out their karmic differences and what's left over is love. But that's very rare. Instead, you might meet someone where there's a challenge to overcome... but each have the capacity and willingness to work it out in this life.

Rare are ‘preordained’ soulmate relationships where there's nothing to work out in this lifetime. For most of us, we'll be continuing the love story that began in past lives — warts and all. So meeting your soulmate is one thing. The question is: once you meet, how will you choose to write the new chapters of your love story?

What if your soulmate is not lightning flashes... but a deep, comfortable friendship? This feels right to me.

Some tips for meeting your soulmate

So! Assume that it's likely that neither of you will be wearing a neon sign the first time you meet. Until then... what can you do to tune in?

Learn about your soul's purpose

Want a soulmate? Get to know your soul. Anything you can do to learn about why you're here is part of consciously meeting your soulmate. So emark on a spiritual awkakening journey! Why? Because we meet our soulmates on our soul path. And we'll meet them on theirs...

Make room in your heart and home

Toxic ties suck your energy. Physical clutter does too. Sticky exes suck up a whack of energy! Do everything you can to ‘scrub your space’ and make room if you're interested in meeting your soulmate.

Engage in activities you love

This isn't magic. When you're doing things you love and believe in, you're energetically like this beacon that can be sensed for miles. It'll help your soulmate find you. And! You'll have fun in the process.

Get a pedicure!

Or whatever makes you feel good. Take care of yourself. Self-nurture. Like doing the things you love, this will create a good ‘vibe’ that will act like a magnet — for other good vibes, like your soulmate!

Say yes to invitations

Meeting your soulmate needs a little help. It's unlikely you'll meet him sitting at home. So when an invite comes up, say thank you! Gratefully receive it — then show up.

Embrace serendipity

The laws of attraction don't work without our participation. So study serendipity. Engage fully in your life. Take action. Pay attention to coincidence. Revise. Act again. Repeat. ☺

Pay attention to your comfort level

Meeting your soulmate is as much comfort as it is chemistry. Do you feel safe? Or are you on edge? How does your body feel? Listen to its whispers.

Discount physical appearance (at first)

Of course affection and sex is important, and there needs to be a physical attraction. But if everything else is there, don't rule him out after the first coffee date. Give it a few meetings, and see if he grows on you.

Look for ‘signs’ (but don't invent them)

This about learning how to recognize the signs, the little ways the universe speaks to you. Now don't go overboard. But do participate, engage fully in your life, and follow your hunches.

Acknowledge your resistance

It's possible that meeting your soulmate feels scary. What if it's the real deal? I'll be vulnerable! Hang in. Don't repress it. Acknowledge your resistence. Go deeper into your own patterns. This in fact, might be exactly what your soul wants for you...before meeting a soulmate.

Finally, take some time to read the articles on this site.

They're short reads... but each has a slightly different slant. I hope you find them helpful.

Thanks for reading about meeting your soulmate!

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Finding your soulmate – Busting myths about soulmates... plus the most important question to ask yourself during a conscious soulmate search...

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