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Soulmate secrets from the relationships around you

“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors, reflecting their beliefs.”
– Shakti Gawain

Part of being accountable for our lives is understanding that the ‘buttons’ others push in us, are mirrored projections of an unhealed or unconscious part of ourselves. Indeed, our relationships are the clearest, brightest mirrors displaying what's in our hearts. Even if what's inside isn't comfortable to see.

If you have an interest in finding your soulmate, the quickest way to see what kind of soulmate you're attracting is to look at the couples around you. To recognize the soulmate secrets of the relationships around you.

Recently while at a conference in Sedona, I had heartfelt conversations with a number of couples. Some of the women wished that their spouses could understand their passions for soul and spirit more. Some men wanted to understand but couldn't. Others slipped painfully close to ridicule. These women tended to love their partners, but their pain was evident.

When in Sedona, I noticed how the relationships around me reflected the change going on inside me. There were about seven or eight couples there, and a number of heart-centred men on their own. What was inspiring were how the men in this group not only accepted but enthusiastically supported their partners. In fact, many were in business together as were the couple who lead the retreat.

“There are two ways of spreading light: To be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.”
– Edith Wharton

These couples were inspiring and real. Their bond and their open hearts has reinforced what I'm creating. Love and acceptance that's not only abundant without struggle, but the most natural thing in the world. I was surrounded by soulmate stories.

One man at my lunch table shared what he experienced just before he met his partner. Months before, he told his friends that he was about to meet someone, sensing a ‘wave’ of energy coming toward him. When they met, he was so nervous that he could barely speak with her!

On a 6 a.m. shuttle, the driver told us how he met his partner. In his case, he had visited Sedona, hiking to a particular rock which was known as a vortex. Two years later, his wife (he learned later) visited the same rock, and had a vision of him two years before, though she didn't know who he was or why she was being shown.

That fall, they ended up in California in the same course and she recognized him immediately. This is the power and wonder of soulmates. As a driver of tourists, I bet he tells that story five times a day. Good on 'im.

On my way home, I sat on the plane beside an older man reading a book. I like people who read and he was friendly, but we didn't talk much during the flight. As we waited to get off, I asked if he'd finished his book and we ended up having a quick conversation as we headed to the baggage pick-up.

He was an SVP at a real estate company. He told me the story of being a single father of three children after his divorce in his late 30's. It was a difficult time and he went to therapy, and after six years of being on his own, met his current wife whom he's been with now for 25 years. The man was exuberant, self-aware and in love. I got to see pictures of what he had created: the whole fam-damly smiling broadly from his iPhone.

“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Carl Buehner

I loved his story. My soul was mirroring heart-focused men who adored and accepted the women in their lives. I believe that in these relationships that I'm attracting, I'm also creating my soulmate.

What is your soul mirroring for you right now?
What soulmate story are you creating in this moment?

Are you receiving flashes of what you seek, like little nods? Or are you receiving pieces of yourself that gently nudge you to be healed?

When I meet passionate women whose partners didn't fully support or poo-poo'd their spiritual lives, I thank the universe for showing me with great clarity what would happen to me if I was to betray myself — again. Or, if I had married the one out of high school. Or the one out of university. Or the one a few years back. Oh boy.

If you are noticing painful relationships, there's also something to learn. Instead of viewing these as something you dread or don't want, thank the universe for showing you more of what you want (i.e. the opposite of what you're witnessing).

As for the heart-bonded couples that shone their inspirational connections over the astonishing red of Sedona rock, I say: Yes to that. Thank you and yes yes YES.

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